The strength l gained from taking time out to pray and meditate on the word of Scripture,equipped me with an inner resilience that l could not have fathomed.
Arranging the funeral involved negotiating with people with ease and on the day of the funeral l had prepared a personal tribute to my late husband which l found the emotional strength to read by myself.This enabled me to start my initial stage of finding closure.
The next thing l did and still do is to strengthen my physical body.A loss of a spouse immediately reduces your finances into half.Also does havoc on your physical strength and body.
So l decided to plan my meals better and also prepare and cook meals from scratch (closest) to their natural form and reduce drastically takeaway meals.This requires discipline and managing family time better.
I wrote my menu and then knew what to buy.This has saved me a lot of money and l have seen my body transform into a fitter and trimmer version of self.Also l feel much lighter,able to do more in my day and react more positively when confronted with daily stress.
When you find yourself alone it is almost tempting to find easier ways to get through the day e.g. order an evening take away, hide away by sleeping longer,or working longer hours to avoid the pain you are going through.I find it is best to deal with the challenges in small chunks,if not it has an adverse effect sometime in the future.
Improving my food intake and making more meals has meant l always have something for my lunch hour at work and save money by doing this.Open markets l find are best places to get a variety of vegetables and ideas of what to add to your menu.Before you know it you become a connoisseur of your local community.There is always a silver lining in every adversity- it is very difficult to see this when it first happens.
I also incorporated a daily get out of the house clause to go walking in the first two years of my loss.This puts you in touch with nature,you can pray or get clarity on your mixed feelings.Such as fear,doubt, uncertainty and a directional future. You get clarity in your thoughts and also get fitter.
I read the prayer of Psalms from the Bible at night, as the night time can be your greatest challenge.You are left alone with your thoughts.
Signing off now,feel free to ask questions or comment – remember there is always Hope after loss.
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